Benefactive Action (Doing X As A Favor)
6 related grammar points that express the same core idea - compared below so you can tell which one to reach for.
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- Verb てあげる JLPT N4
- Verb ていただく JLPT N4
- Verb て くださる JLPT N4
- Verb て くれる JLPT N4
- Verb て + さしあげる JLPT N4
- Verb て もらう JLPT N4
てあげる / てくれる / てもらう
Someone did something for you, and you are deciding which of you is the subject of the sentence.
Verb て もらう vs Verb て くれる: Both describe the same favour. てくれる makes the doer the subject (友達が手伝ってくれた), and てもらう makes you the subject (友達に手伝ってもらった). てもらう also implies you asked; てくれる leaves it as something they did of their own accord, which is why it sounds warmer.
You want to offer to do something for someone senior to you.
Verb て + さしあげる vs Verb てあげる: てさしあげる is the humble form, but it is risky: announcing your own favour draws attention to it whichever form you use. In practice offer with ましょうか instead, and keep てあげる for equals and てさしあげる for describing the act afterwards.